I am generally a very sociable person. I am an extrovert according to Meyers-Briggs and I thrive in the workplace when I have a social outlet to talk to people or hangout. It energizes me and keeps me going. There is one exception to this rule. I am NOT a morning person. I used up all my morning person abilities in high school to annoy everyone else by laughing and skipping through the halls like a crack addict on a high.
My poor husband had a learning curve on this. He wakes up from bed and it's like a switch, "Morning honey" and he's lucky if I generally grumble in his direction. It's not because I don't appreciate it or whatever, I just am not awake and don't have the capacity to plaster a huge smile on my face and act like I have had 3 cups of coffee. So I tell you this to show you I am not bias to strangers which is where the real point of this post lies.
I get to work around 7am. This is pretty early for my workplace and I arrive before the majority of people. However, because I am coming in close to the start of an hour, a good dozen people also arrive around the same time. I don't want to socialize with them anymore than I do my husband and in fact, for them, it's far less. I have no desire to meet new weirdos in my building at 7am to here all about the crazy that's coming from their mouths. My morning routine consists of arriving in the parking garage, then sit there and take note of who else is in there and what they are doing. Some people are a "get out of the car and go straight in" people and some are the "I forgot I packed like I was going to Alaska for a week and need to collect my things" people. I do whatever I can to minimize the slightest possibility of interacting with them. Sometimes I pretend to be listening to the radio other times I pretend to fart around getting my stuff out of my car. I do whatever is going to space me out from other people.
Is this weird? Absolutely! However I do this because people have a way of saying the stupidest things to me and I just feel awkward and in some cases trapped (more to follow). So most mornings I am good with spacing on getting out of the garage and to the building. The most tricky part is the timing at the elevator. Again because I am in so early, there's usually one ready to go when I push the button. On rare occasions it's not. This gets into the danger zone. If I didn't space myself quite enough, I now face the risk of having to ride the elevator with them (trapped). I have been known to just up and take the stairs to the 4th floor (not something I enjoy with all my stuff in the morning) or just go to the bathroom on the first floor for a minute to wait it out.
Yeah, I know, you are probably thinking, "You're a total whackpot!" And you know what? You are 100% correct. I probably face more stress in the first 10 minutes of my workday than some people do all day. But considering the people that have tried to talk to me, I consider this almost like sanity insurance. I have been talked to by complete strangers sharing a bit too much with me, complained to, politics, etc. Nothing I want to hear and my brain has to process whatever they are saying enough to make a polite coherent response when all I am really thinking is, "Why on earth are you talking to me?" I have to do this because I have no idea when I might have to actually work with these people.
Unfortunately, my quirks about people talking to me in the elevator extend into most of the day. The only difference is, I am able to handle situations better after I am awake. I still don't want to talk to complete strangers. This may be because I know there are a lot of ummm... interesting people at my work place who are a bit off. Kind of like me, but in vastly different ways that freak me out.
These rules all go out the window when it's someone I know or work with on a regular basis. However, a good majority of them know I am not a morning person. It takes some training, but after a while people get it. I mean I trained the people in Atlanta to let me have my oatmeal time. It was my first 15 minutes of the morning where I made oatmeal, read my email and wasn't bothered by people. If people respect my non-morning person personality, then I am pretty much golden the rest of the day.
So I tell you this story so I can tell you another one and then more in the future. Now that you are in on all of my avoidance techniques you may or may not appreciate what happens when they do not work and I am forced to shared an elevator or communication with someone against my timeline. This usually happens about once a week. Today, it was someone holding the door open for me from an almost too far distance out, so I felt compelled to hurry up (which I hated - hello?! space between!!) and then I was told, "Time to wake up!" to which the dude almost got punched in the face. Why do morning people do that? LEAVE ME BE! I'll come about in about 30 minutes, just let it happen naturally.
Just one of the many quirks that makes me, me.