As of tomorrow I will officially be at 40 weeks (aka - my due date). During the past 9 months I have learned a thing or three about being pregnant through my experience. I thought it might be educational/humorous to share them with you. Here they are in no particular order:
1. I have acquired a unique ability to seek out public restrooms. Note - Not all are created equal.
2. People will say the stupidest things to you that makes you question their intelligence. I had a lady who stopped by my desk days after I was out with a severe cold and offer me advice on how to get rid of my "pregnancy cough". Even when trying to explain that I had a cold I was getting over she seemed to think that wasn't relevant and that I for sure had this pregnancy cough. For those that are curious, should you ever get this, you should drink onion water. Yes, onion water, whatever the hell that is.
3. Related, people want to comment on your progress. I have heard it all which I take to mean no one really has a clue what's "normal". I have been told, "You shouldn't be that big for 5 months!" Two days later I heard, "Wow, your small!". I was told, "You're bigger than you were yesterday!" as if that makes ANYONE feel better. I have also been told, "You don't look pregnant from behind." The scary thing is these comments have all come from women. I like the positive comments, but what on earth makes a woman think that another woman wants to hear how huge she is really blows my mind. Trust me, she is well aware she is growing, more so than you are.
4. You get to know your doctor(s) and staff very well, especially towards the end when you are in there every single week. Hopefully you like them and it's convenient to your work/home.
5. Having cravings is partly something you always have and partly pregnancy related. I mean I crave things on a routine basis, but rarely do I allow myself to give into those because otherwise I would be in very poor health. However, I will say, there were a few things I craved that I couldn't get out of my head like fried chicken, breakfast sandwiches, and Kraft Mac & Cheese. Those kinds of cravings I would call pregnancy related and you kind of allow yourself to give into them because otherwise you will go insane. But now I "crave" ice cream and some sweets, but nothing like before where I couldn't shake it. I think I have fallen into the "I am pregnant and I don't care, I want it. " mode, which is not dissimilar to my routine cravings I had before I was pregnant. Of course I tell myself at 8/9 months pregnant, I've earned the right to have something I want.
6. Sonograms are pretty darn nifty.
7. There is WAAAAAY too much literature on pregnancy. We have about 20 books or so in our living room that are all about pregnancy and the first year. I have read a total of zero of them. I get weekly updates from BabyCenter and I am good to go. This is perhaps because I don't have a long attention span. Also, during pregnancy, your body is kind of on auto pilot. It's not like you have to concentrate properly to make a baby. You just need to remember certain things like taking vitamins, not getting drunk and laying off the street drugs. Sure there are other things you probably need to know, but again, short snippets from BabyCenter and some advice from friends was all I needed.
8. Pregnant people (who are like me) don't want to be touched. I didn't want to be touched when I wasn't pregnant and not much changed during the last 9 months. Related, I was asked if someone could bring in a stethoscope to listen to the baby. Umm, what? No.
9. Everyone and their brother wants to know if you plan to breastfeed as if it's any of their business. Some exclusions to the people who can ask are close friends and family. However, I have had total strangers ask me and I really don't understand why they are even asking. For one, I think it's completely rude to assume it should be public knowledge and that every woman on the planet wants to share their choice/talk about it. For another, I think it's a very personal choice and it's every woman's right to choose what works for her without judgement from complete strangers. There will be judgement no matter what is chosen, so just leave it alone.
10. There are a crap ton of decisions to be made during the course of pregnancy. One of the most stressful is possibly what kind of care you plan to have for your baby after they are born. Some sources will tell you you should have been looking before you got pregnant so you can get on waiting lists for "reputable" places. Other places can make you feel like if you aren't spending 30% of your income on your child's care, you must wish them a hard life. I would say educate yourself and be honest with your expectations. At 9 months old, I am just hoping the day care feeds him, cleans him, and returns him to us in the same state we left them in. If you are hoping for a genius by the age of 2, perhaps you need to plan a bit more than us.
11. Learning to ask for help and letting other people do things for me has been hard. I am so independent it's been a real learning curve. Of course the further you are in pregnancy the less you are able to do just by your physical limitations. I am still holding out on tying my own shoes. Thank god for long arms and stairs to sit on when I put my shoes of for the day. Some people are better at this than I am, and kudos to them.
12. I miss my adult beverages, not for the getting buzzed and happy feeling (although that's quite nice sometimes after a real shitty day), but just for the variety. I dislike drinking soda a lot and I am so tired of fruit juices and water. Lemonade and iced tea have been helpful, but I just want to be able to have a glass of wine with pasta.
13. When you are pregnant and people ask you how you are doing, they generally mean it.
14. I am a back sleeper and can't wait until I can just lay down and not worry about cutting off blood flow to my body/baby. Side sleeping is going ok, but my ears hurt more than anything and I feel like they are constantly in need of cleaning. I am not sure if it's just the side sleeping that's triggering so much ear wax or if it's more hormones, but yuck! Also trying to get out of bed is a challenge during the later stages of pregnancy, especially if you are swapping sides each time you get up to pee.
15. Overall pregnancy hasn't been that bad. Some people complain to complain about these kinds of things. Sure it's no bed of roses and no, I wasn't incapacitated by morning sickness, but I did have a baby sit on my sciatic nerve for about a month or so, so there is always something that makes your situation unique. There are no two pregnancies alike. I think if you are willing to admit some things are beyond your control and roll with it, you'll be better off in the end. Besides, it's not like it lasts forever (thank the heavens!).